Friends, frenemies, and neighbors

By | September 18, 2012

Sorry for the late post, you guys. I had a busy weekend and while I’ve been online via my phone, I haven’t been able to sit down at my computer. Which meant I wasn’t able to write my post. And my post had me thinking quite a bit, which is…unusual.

So, a bit of background: this past weekend, my bestest friend EVAH came down for a visit. There was much squeeing and much acting like high schoolers, since we haven’t actually seen each other in roughly two years (since right before I moved to Texas).

On the flip side of this, the mother of my daughter’s best friend now refuses to have anything do with us, because…I don’t know. Maybe it has to do with my “day” job? (I’m a local rep for a company that sells what I like to call “adult relationship aids” when I’m being PC about it.) For the record, she knew the nature of the job when I was still considering starting my business–and she didn’t have any issues then. So I have no idea what changed.

To add insult to injury, earlier today Daughter’s Best Friend’s Mom suddenly told me she’d already taken her kids to the indoor playground that we were supposed to go to together–and was subsequently busy the rest of the week. I got extremely annoyed, and wanted to stop having anything to do with her, since this was not the first time she’d done something like this. Only…what about my daughter? It seems like she can no longer see her friend. And because of the mother’s “we’ll get together next week–oops, I lied no we won’t”  tendencies, my daughter has been disappointed countless times in the last month.

Needless to say, I’m pretty freaking annoyed and ready to cut all ties with this woman.

Ahem. Anyway. What does this have to do with the apocalypse? My particular situation–absolutely nothing. The general situation–maybe a bit.

I was thinking: what will friendships and such be like in the post-apocalypse? In my head, with the dusty, Wild West-like frontier-y post-apocalyptic world, I see a lot of backstabbing and fake friendships. You know, frenemies. (Who came up with that term, anyway?)

And then I wondered how many true friendships there would be. Or how many people would be willing to travel 800 kms to see or check on a friend.

I’m thinking that “true friends” will be a rather small (and possibly elite?) group. Because I think it’s far more likely that “friends” will end up throwing you under the bus at the first opportunity. You know…they’ll say they’ll do things to help you, but they’ll really do everything for themselves (and by themselves), not caring if they’ve just thrown you to the zombies.

But maybe I’m just being cynical. So I’ll ask you: what do you think friendships will be like in the post-apocalypse?

 

3 thoughts on “Friends, frenemies, and neighbors

  1. Jamie

    Friendships post-apocalypse will be tenuous at best, and even true friendships will be stretched to breaking point. All it takes it one zombie too many for someone to decide that it’s best to look out for #1 and throw you to the undead.

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  2. char

    Yep, very good point. I’m not expecting many friendships post-apoc, really. Unless the friendship suits both people and they can both get something out of it. Maybe I’m just being cynical?

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  3. tavia.

    I think PA there will be a number of people who forge friendships because they survived together. They may have had to opportunity to leave the other for dead or take advantage of them but they didn’t and it just went on like that until trust was established and they become comfortable with each other.

    I don’t see many people joining up together in camps and just becoming friends. People are less trust worthy when it’s just their reputation and maybe a lashing on the line.

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